Wednesday, August 4, 2010

9 years and going strong.

(photo taken on recent raft trip.)

every year on august 4th we celebrate our anniversary. this year marks number 9.

the entire family and babysitting population is headed over to hiawatha trail to celebrate it without us... boo hoo hoo. so instead this year will be spent planning on the amazing exotic romantical way that we spend our 10th...and maybe pizza night with the kids.

i came across this article awhile ago and thoroughly believe everything that it says. after sticking through thick and thin, i love merv more now than i ever have before. it may seem long but i promise it is well worth the read- married or not!

how to stay married for life:
1.If you are not ready to get married, then don't get married! Think long and hard before taking the plunge because it is a lifelong commitment which requires behavioral changes. You must start your marriage with a commitment to make it last, and you must be aware of the fact that certain behaviors such as flirting with the opposite sex are no longer appropriate under any situation.

2.Certain behaviors such as going out to night clubs are inappropriate for married couples. These social situations serve only one purpose: to meet members of the opposite sex. If you don't think you can live without the night life then married life may not be for you.

3. It is inappropriate for a married man or women to have a friend of the opposite sex. Your husband or wife is now your best friend, and all other members of the opposite sex should be downgraded to acquaintances. Do not put yourself in a position to be alone with someone of the opposite sex, even if it is as innocent as a lunch date.

4.You must share a life philosophy and life goals. Do you agree about having children and how they should be raised? What about religion? Are you working toward a financial milestone such as buying a house?

5.There is no room for privacy in a marriage, you must share everything. Your spouse should be free to examine your cell phone at will. Married couples should share a common email address, and not have private email accounts. If there is no getting around a private email address or voice mail, then your spouse should have access to your password.

6.Share your finances and don't argue about money. All accounts should be joint, and there is no such thing as his money or her money. When you're married, its community property, and you must learn to communicate about your finances.

7.Your spouse is an extension of you and deserves respect. He or she should be elevated by you at every opportunity. Their honor should be defended vigorously against attacks, even if it means standing up to your mother! It must be clear to everyone, especially your spouse, that you render your full support to your spouse in every situation.

8.Personal matters between you and your spouse to include finances do not concern other people. When you enter a marriage you must keep private matters private.

9.Tell your spouse how much you adore him or her frequently. This is the most important advice that I can give.

3 comments:

Arah said...

Hey we will babysit so you guys can go on an anniversary date. Maybe Friday night?

Kera said...

Happy Anniversary! Way to go guys. You're inspiring.

#7 made me laugh.

Kathryn said...

Peeking in at your blog via Patrick & Kera's.

I like this.

:)

k.